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Shandyr

Hmm? Oh this? Just my broken heart, pay no heed to it. Just let it rot there in the dirt.

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  • Aedan
    You will be missed.
    September 21
    • typo_tilly
      typo_tilly
      I don't know what went down, but you take care, y'hear?
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Would be nice if we knew. It almost makes me afraid to post in any real duscussions.
    • Ravenslight
      Ravenslight
      Sigh... You will be missed.
  • JuliusBorisov
    Dear community,

    It is with the utmost sadness that we announce that @Shandyr has been banned from the forum.

    This decision was not made lightly. Shandyr was a treasured member of this community who has contributed greatly to the forum over the years, and he is known fondly by many forumites. However, no one is exempt from the Site Rules. Flaming, rude and disrespectful behavior, and intentionally provoking other forumites are not permitted on the forum.

    Banishment is always a difficult choice, and the moderating team only uses it as a last resort when all other methods have failed. We have given Shandyr many chances to reform, but he has continued to break the Site Rules in spite of multiple warnings.

    Shandyr will be missed, but this is a necessary step to preserve the positive and friendly culture that has blossomed on this forum over the years.

    If you have additional questions about this decision, or moderation in general, feel free to send a PM to a moderator and we will answer it as best we can.

    -Site staff
    September 21
    • gorgonzola
      gorgonzola
      rules are rules, and everyone must respect them or face the consequences.
      and moderation decisions are not to be discussed by forum members, a forum is not a democracy, is a place we are welcome in as long as we behave according to the rules, and the moderation team is in charge about granting the respect of them.
      but i still feel sad to see a member that gave a so valuable contribution in the past disappearing.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      The forums just got a little darker.
    • Aedan
      Aedan
      Well. I did not see that coming. Maybe I missed the threads where he had such "disrespectful behavior".
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      I certainly missed it as well.
    • Raduziel
      Raduziel
      Shandyr being rude? I definitely missed that memo.
  • :heartbreak:

    Hmm? Oh this? Just my broken heart, pay no heed to it. Just let it rot there in the dirt. :cry:
    September 21
  • For a long time, beavers have been SHAMEFULLY neglected in video games and other software. But this will end here and now! Brace yourself, the bionic beaver is coming. And he's not amused!

    image
    September 18
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Seriously, no way anyone could mod beavers into Baldur's Gate? *sigh* It's one of my oldest dreams...
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Fun Fact: My dad once wrote a small program for his job to help him work quicker. He called it "Platypus". The updated version was called "Platyplus".
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Hmm, something seems not quite right there...
    • Artemius_I
      Artemius_I
      My last recall of a prominent beaver character in media was probably Chronicles of Narnia...
    • deltago
      deltago
      Leave Canada's national animal alone.
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      "Platyplus" is the greatest thing I've read this week lol
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Uhm... Beaver unequal sign Platypus ?
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      A platypus is a beaver duck, so it counts.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Not sure I'm happy with this :/
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      I think both animals are really cool.
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      Beavers are alright, but Platypuses (platypi?!) are the cutest thing in the world. :)
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Platypi are inded super cute chimerae, and one of my all time favorite creatures. But don't forget that beavers and engineers, and that is awesome.
  • Rik_Kirtaniya
    Have you read this poem? I originally wrote it on mlnevese's wall, as a parody on Edgar Allan Poe's "The Raven". I think you'll find it interesting. ;)

    (Writing the poem as a comment to this post, as I fear it will not fit within the character limit of the main post.)
    September 19
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Though the gnome killed the Santa Claus, thinking that this was a great loss,
      To little children who won't get Santa's presents any more.
      However, he was but misled, for 'twas not Santa but his shade,
      And real Santa was not dead, and in he came through the door---
      "That was my image, silly gnome! How could you this fact ignore?"
      Fell he laughing to the floor.

      Then the ancient gnomish mummy, thought he had a queasy tummy,
      Seeing Santa still alive, rolling and laughing on the floor.
      "Are my eyes truly mistaken?!" said the gnome, his senses shaken,
      "Have I too much butter taken, eating taters more and more?
      Eating taters with a lot of butter in them, more and more?
      This I should promptly abhor!"

      But the temptation of tater, made the gnome's mouth strongly water,
      "Forgive me, great Urdlen! For this I can't resist any more!"
      And so the gnome took spoon and plate, and swiftly the taters he ate,
      And not before it was too late, did he cease his eating chore,
      Eating till his little tummy swelled up like never before,
      And then he fell to the floor.

      Santa now was keenly seeing, how the gnome brought his own ruin,
      Eating taters with a lot of butter in them more and more.
      "How could thou be fatter than me? What's your secret? Tell me, tell me!
      For truly I'm impressed by thee! So that now this gift is your!"
      Saying this, Santa took out a gift and placed it on the floor---
      And inside were taters more!

      The gnome now thought that he would make, something to cure his stomach ache,
      So he decided to bake cookies of many a flavour!
      But therein a ferret did lurk, sneaking in the shadowy dark,
      And all the cookies he did mark, while he hid behind the door---
      Waiting there until the gnome was tired and began to snore---
      And when the gnome woke up, the cookies were there no more.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Alternatively you could have told me to simply check out mlnevese's wall :P
      Will read it in a bit. Give me a moment.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Oh, you'd have had a hard time finding out from that particular wall thread (fondly named "the Behemoth"). I just made it comfortable for you. Once you see that thread, you'll know why... ;)
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      *finding "it" out
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      No, I found it, quiet easily actually. No problem :)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      So, I can see, as probably everyone, that you put a lot of effort into this poem. So Kudos for that.
      And story wise I like it a lot.

      However, personally, I can't feel the flow of a poem here. I am not going into a deep analysis now. Analyzing poems is what I did in school abundantly. In German classes, English classes and to my horror French classes. I have had my lifetime fill of analyzing poems.

      Just take it as my personal impression, which is subjective of course, and with which other people may very well disagree.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      It's basically a comic relief, and more of a parody than an actual "poem". ;)
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Oh, and the "flow" as well as the background and context of this piece can be better felt if one reads the original thread where this was posted as a response. ;)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      But wouldn't that have been all the more reason to point me to mlnevese's wall in the first place and not just copy the poem to my wall?
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Hmm... got your point. I just thought it would be convenient to "quote" what I wanted to show so that you wouldn't have any troubles finding it out from the depths of that thread. :)
  • forum reactions begone with javascript? What the...?
    September 20
  • Hmm, does anyone know the age of Trent Oster?
    September 17
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Greater than 12 less than 85
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      That is a start!
  • Rik_Kirtaniya
    Can you access the song given in this link from your country?

    https://gaana.com/song/may-flowers-14

    This is the one which I was talking about earlier.

    It's said that there are so many great songs which are not available on YouTube. (And most music streaming services which have them are also not available world-wide. :( )
    September 17
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      I meant "It's sad..." in the last paragraph. (Ah, these auto-correct mechanisms!)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Uhm, too many things I have to agree to on that site... I'm very reluctant when it comes to such things.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Hmm... I don't seem to have to agree to anything there. Don't know why this is so?

      You mean, are those cookies? (The networking kind of cookies, of course.)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Gaana T&C and Privacy Policy
      I actually don't like agreeing to such things anymore.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      I wish I could find another instance of that song, but music services like Spotify or Deezer are not available in my country. That's bad... :(
  • Rik_Kirtaniya
    Does this make you sad? I feel somewhat so whenever I hear it. It's beautiful nonetheless.

    September 15
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      What, you trying to make me sad? Usually, I don't like pieces of music that make me sad. I rather enjoy pieces that are vibrant with life. Or calm, relaxing but positive pieces.

      This piece is a tad sad, luckily not very much so.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Ah, I see. Well, variety is the spice of life. :D This piece is not actually negative or demoralising, but just an elegy wherein the composer had a glimpse of something beautiful... which is then gone. It's based on the poem given in this link: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/La_fille_aux_cheveux_de_lin

      If you like pieces vibrant with life, I'd strongly recommend listening to the composition "May Flowers" by Pianissimo Brothers. You cannot help but feel happy whenever you listen to it, it's just that good. Too bad it's not on YouTube, but you can listen to it on any music streaming service (like Spotify or Deezer, which however are not available in my country, I listen on Gaana). Try it out and tell me what you think about it! You cannot miss it! ;)
  • As you stroll through the forum's activity page you happen to come upon a pile of shinies!
    What do you do?

    September 14
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      *Casts: Shinies to Cookies and walks away*

      Cookies are always a better bait than shinies. ;)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      But you took the bait anyway :x
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      I didn't touch them... :P

      Greed is a dangerous liability... ;)
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      By the way, these shinies look very much similar to Cadbury Gems!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Nope, they look like cookies now... Thanks... :/
  • SMILE IF YOU ARE HAPPY!!! :D :D :D
    September 14
  • No one can read my poker face! :no_mouth:

    *Aedan walks by*

    Aww! :love:
    September 13
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      A magpie flies by. (Hmm.. is that a wallet in his backpocket?)

      Pickpocket: success.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      *You fly back to your nest to inspect your latest loot.*
      *You open the wallet and scan its content.*
      *You find a lot of paper money and rejoice at first when eventually you realize that it is toy money for Monopoly. You also find a note that reads:*

      "Dear thief, I knew this could happen. I would never wear my real wallet in my backpocket.
      I hope you like Monopoly. PS: Opening this wallet has triggered its self-destruct mechanism. It will explode in 3... 2..."
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      BOOOOOM!!!
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      "NOOOOOOOooooooooooo.."

      The large explosion cuts the desperate cry of and then there's only silence and small pieces of magpie flesh, bone and feathers flying about.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      And remember, the "ph" is silent!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Do you know what that means? You can add an "ph" to any name as long as it's silent. Aephdan. Anduphin. Skaphtan.
    • Ravenslight
      Ravenslight
      This guy is great. :)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Or Ravensphlight. I think it's funny how he says that "ph" thing at the start of every video. That way people will remember! Yeah, he is great! A great source for lore.

      I'm playing a character who is following Ilmater in the Roleplaying Section of the forum :)
  • This is just a test. You are allowed to EITHER change one of the names OR turn around one of the signs.
    You can also comment in what whey the inequation may be true in your eyes.

    Aerie > Jaheira > Nalia
    September 8
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      There's nothing to change, it's 100% correct the way it is.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      See, very good, I didn't anticipate that at all, that that could happen, hence the test.
      So what now? Wait for someone who would like to make a change? But what if many people agree on it and don't want to change it? Then it doesn't continue... Hmm...
    • Aedan
      Aedan
      Jaheira > Nalia > Aerie
      Fixed.
      (Heh. Aedan likes breaking the rules.)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Rule breakers must be punished! I'll have to start to hand out smacks...
      And OMG how can you put Aerie at the end???
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Aerie is pretty much the fantasy version of my wife, Aerie> Jaheira (best written romance) > Nalia (the less good Imoen).
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      The original inequation is the correct one. Tampering with it may cause a distortion in the very fabric of space-time, culminating in black holes, radioactive vortexes and possibly another Big Bang. Best leave it alone...
    • deltago
      deltago
      Aerie > Nalia > Neera. Spellcasting. Aerie, being able to cast both Cleric and Wizard spells IMO is the ideal spellcaster. Nalia is better than Neera because there is less chance of half your gold disappearing or a cow falling on your head when she casts a spell.
    • Nimran
      Nimran
      Ferrets > Jaheira > Nalia

      Well, DUH!
  • Se cerchi di essere perfetto, rimani così come sei. :)
    September 9
  • Meanwhile on Mars...

    image
    (artwork by rafikemil on deviantart)
    September 8
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Attenzione! Ho bisogno di aiuto! Questa traduzione è accettabile?

      "Quando ti guardo in faccia non c'è nulla che cambierei. Perché sei fantastico come sei. E quando sorridi tutto il mondo si ferma e fissa per un po '. Perché, ragazzo, sei fantastico come sei."
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      (addressed to a man)
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      What game is this?
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      The dialogue GUI looks a bit like Skyrim
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      It's a full conversion mod of Skyrim, called Enderal.
      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enderal

      That said, I never played Skyrim nor Enderal. But this character, Jespar Dal'Varek, caught my attention because he has a very "unusal" view on relationships. He is a free spirit and doesn't want to be chained/caged in an artificial social construct called "relationship".

      Relationships, marriage, "you are mine", "i am yours" those are expressions of possessiveness. And with possessiveness also comes jealously.

      "until death do us part" - really? How can you foresee your whole life? How can you know your emotions throughout your life? It's a promise - a vow even - you cannot know you can keep. So with possessiveness may also come lies.

      Jespar's idea is that instead of trying to bind someone to you, you let them run free. Because if they truly love you, they will come to you on their own volition rather than obligation.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Well, its not like you are "forced" into a relationship. If you like someone enough, then you start one. The character above sounds like the kind of person who would use someone just to get what they want, and then leave the pieces behind with no remorse. In this sense, it is much more possessive and selfish than love. Its all about what you want at the expense of the other person. Actual love is a partnership of equals, not bondage.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      "Actual love is a partnership of equals, not bondage."

      Yeah exactly. Jesper is arguing too that relationships shouldn't be about bondage.

      But you are also right with this:
      "The character above sounds like the kind of person who would use someone just to get what they want, and then leave the pieces behind with no remorse. In this sense, it is much more possessive and selfish than love. Its all about what you want at the expense of the other person."

      His personal story in that game is about behaving like that and discovering it himself and reflecting upon it. He has been behaving exactly like that and hurt many people that way. But in the end he finally realizes that when he finally meets his equal (the player character).

      You may say that in a way his views come from the lack of inexperience of true love until he finally meets his first true love. At least that's how I choose to interpret his story.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      "Well, its not like you are "forced" into a relationship."

      And this is a complete different aspect. No, you are not forced into a relationship. But how many people start a relationship without getting to know each other properly beforehand? How many people marry and have children without getting to know each other properly beforehand?

      When I grew up I witnessed so many married couples where I couldn't see any love from the outside. I could only see indifference at best, resentment between the partners at worst. To me there seemed to be so many people who are in a relationship or marriage because out of habit or because they were afraid of being alone.

      And this has made a profound impression on me. So many people in a relationship or in a marriage where they were NOT equal partners, not at all.

      Of course I cannot and don't want to condemn/judge every relationship or marriage because of that. But I would say a true relationship or marriage is only that when that is actually the case, that the two partners are equals. Otherwise it's not, even if you would still formally call it a relationship or marriage.

      I have simply witnessed to much emotional abuse and emotional blackmail in my life. Which is why that character's view partly resonated with me. But I see that he is not completely right, either.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Now, how does this effect me? Why should I care if people are in a relationship or marriage for other reasons than love? Why is that my problem?

      It's my problem because I grew up in a loveless marriage. People can do whatever they want in their relationships or marriages. But when they have kids it's a different matter.

      No child should be exposed to that trauma that it can cause when their parents are NOT in a partnership of equals.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      So the lesson? Relationships and marriages are not inherently good or bad. It's what people make out of it.

      But just because two people are in a relationship or in a marriage doesn't mean they are automatically equal partners.
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      People change over time, it's just the way things work. Sometimes two partners change in the same pace and in the same direction, and sometimes they don't. You can still be equals even if you are not aligned, so for me it's more about alignment of ideals, goals, life purpose, etc rather than equality. It might be semantics though and maybe we mean the same thing but use different words, but one thing that is true is that many humans (myself included) let the heart win over the brain until it no longer can, so you stick to your partner for a long time after the brain has started to report to you that it's doomed. And then of course your have it the other way around as well, where the brain is locked into rational though about house mortgages, the shared children, the difficult task of separating one entity into two (meaning to break up and split the economy, friends, things.. )

      relationships is difficult. There's no absolutes, no ultimate truths. It's hard work and it's all fking worth it! The feeling of being one cohesive unit rather than a single self is the most amazing feeling, so I understand why some ppl fear the end because it hurts as hell to break that up. I just did after over 8 years with my GF and it sucks.

      I'm rambling. Ignore me.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Nah, it's okay, thanks for sharing.

      Personally my mistake was to let the many, many, MANY examples in my life of bad marriages and bad relationships lead me to think that there is something wrong with relationships or marriages themselves.

      There is not. It's as I said, it's what people make out of them. I have just seen too many negative examples, that's all.

      And when that character criticized the concept of relationships I party understood him and felt partly understood by him.

      I can tell you, from observation of couples but also from myself, you can WASTE so much, SO DAMN MUCH precious lifetime just because you don't break up. Because you postpone and postpone and postpone. And when you finally do it, you do NOT regret doing it but you regret all those wasted years that you could have done it earlier.

      That is not a "universal truth". It's just my personal, subjective experience.

      Also, in the end "love" is something different for everyone else. But I think "relationship" and "marriage" are empty terms until you fill them.

      Meaning, if you are in a relationship or in a marriage, actually that doesn't say anything at all.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Relationships are hard and require lifelong effort to work. I think too many people enter them lightly, or think that staying together by any means necessary is better than backing out. I'm sorry if I came across as judgemental, I've been hurt by someone before who apparently thought like this character and it brought back old feelings.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Hey there's nothing wrong. We all have our experiences and we are sharing.

      And if a character manages to evoke strong and different reactions in different people I think that may indicate good writing.

      I seem to see something completely different in that character than you. And that is okay.

      Those screenshots show him AFTER he changed for the better. And yet you were able to conclude to his former, bad behavior. So maybe you would disagree that he changed at all.

      But notice this, he tells that to the player character (PC) when they ask to be more than friends. He has recognized who he is and what he has done to other people in the past and he makes clear to the PC what being with him would be like. The PC knows from the very beginning that it would not be a "typical" or "traditional" relationship. He is upfront about it.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Would you enter a "relationship" with someone who tells you very openly, at the very beginning, that he will never be truly committed to you? That you will never be his and he will never be yours?

      If so, that is on you, I think.

      The difference is, if he was not telling you that. That would be deceiving. But he does make it clear who he is BEFORE entering a "relationship" (which he wouldn't even call it that way).
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Very interesting. I can't say I agree with the philosophy, but letting the person know upfront is better than the alternative. Its always really fun to see how people react to characters and what different interpretations they have. Like @Understandmousemagic and any of the good companions from BG1.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      You did watch the Golden Girls once, right? In one episode Rose says the following: " If you hold a bird gently, the bird will stay, but if you squeeze the bird, his eyes will bug out."

      And that is the topic here. Love needs freedom. And you can make feel someone emotionally suffocated by holding onto them too strongly. How much freedom someone needs that up for him to decide. And how much freedom a relationship needs, that's for both partners to decide.
      Both partners should be very open about that and agree on it.

      See, Jesper takes Rose's saying to the extreme. Rose speaks of "gently holding". Jesper rejects any form of bonding, holding and commitment.

      But both advocate in a way, that there must be a component of freedom. If you hold a bird gently, it has the freedom to fly away. But why should it when you are so gentle to it?

      And that is what Jesper is expressing above. Even if that bird flew away, if it truly likes you it will come back to you anyway. But holding onto it too strongly may harm it.

      That is my interpretation.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      At the same time, someone who wants to go, never planned on staying in the first place. You cannot trust someone who is already planning on leaving.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Heh its interesting. There is no right or wrong here. Just an exchange of thoughts.

      My point was, by holding onto someone too strongly you might make them want to go in the first place.

      If someone has the choice of leaving and staying and they stay isn't that more meaningful, as if someone does not have that choice and cannot do anything else but stay?

      If someone caged me, I would start to dream of and long for freedom.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Gotta love these discussion.
      If you need to cage someone to get them to stay, you are probably doing someone wrong. I make the argument a relationship is not a cage, even if it is exclusive.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      "If you need to cage someone to get them to stay, you are probably doing someone wrong." I think that is also part of Rose's message.

      "I make the argument a relationship is not a cage, even if it is exclusive."
      I make the argument that everybody is different when it comes down to feeling caged. And when they feel that way.

      For some people an exclusive relationship may feel like a cage. For other it's not. Everyone has their own degree of freedom that they need in a relationship. And that is why it is all the more important, crucial even, that both partners talk about this openly and see if they can reach an agreement.

      And this is what Jesper is doing. He tells you right at the start before entering a "relationship" (which he wouldn't call it that way) how much freedom he needs. And in his case it's A LOT. Much more than many people would be comfortable with. Which he realizes. Which is why he tells you.

      So neither "exclusive relationships" nor "open relationships" are inherently good or bad. Again, it depends on what people make out of it.

      But imagine you don't talk about it. Imagine two people entering a relationship and one takes it for granted that it is an exclusive one, and the other one takes it for granted that it is an open one.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Jesper's argument feels like a catch-22 to me. He wants to be allowed to do whatever and argues that if the relationship is real, he will choose to come back. But by requiring he be allowed to leave, he is already planning to. There is no staying because he chooses, when he has already chosen to leave for every relationship he may ever have.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      "Oh I left because I need to be free" "Oh I never came back because I didn't want to". There is nothing meaningful there. If there is no meaning for your relationship, you don't care for each other, or you end up not being compatible, then yeah, its healthier to break it off than force yourself through something that has no meaning. But by refusing to let yourself become attached to someone, you are robbing all meaning of any relationship from yourself.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      So if you think that way, why would you ever choose to be in a relationship with someone who argues and thinks like Jesper? You wouldn't would you?

      So where's the problem?

      He gives you the choice of being with him or not after telling you who he is. Just choose "no" and let him try to find someone who would say "yes" to him.

      ---

      "But by requiring he be allowed to leave, he is already planning to. "
      I am not sure about this. Does that really follow logically?
      Why would it be logically impossible that he simply likes to have the option of leaving but would actually not use it?

      But even if he was planning to leave, then he would also plan to come back.

      And the thing is, he is looking for someone who would be okay with that. It seems you are not. So the two of you would be no match. So then let him try to find his match in someone else.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      If he always comes back to you, he has grown attached to you. You don't always return to someone you don't care for.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      He is setting himself up to never have a successful relationship. He is going in wih the mindset that he will want to leave and end it. Psyching himself up for failure.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      I think he has his own ideas of what a "successful relationship" for him is.

      No, he is going in with the mindset that should he actually leave he would also come back.

      "He is going in with the mindset that he will want to leave and end it."
      I wonder where you see that in the two screenshots. I can't see that. I don't see it.

      I do see that he talks of running free, yes, but right after that he speaks of coming back. Always coming back. And that is exactly the difference for him between love and no love.

      He would always return to a person he loves.
      But he wouldn't return to a person he doesn't love.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      He may just have found what he was looking for. Because at that moment in the game the player character is given the option to romantically pursue Jespar. After he has disclosed who he is.

      There may be people out there who would actually be okay to be with someone like Jespar.
    • mashedtaters
      mashedtaters
      Marriage used to be decided by the parents, not the two lovers, even in western countries. Not sure if this is good or bad, but what they were supposed to do was look at the potential relationship without “love-goggles” to see if the two would be compatible over their lifetimes.
      When that evolved to be the decision of the lovers themselves, one thing that was lost, I think, was HOW to choose a partner correctly. Many people typically just choose because they’re attracted to each other. But people should be choosing because of shared values and ideals. If you and your partner share values, morals, ideals, and goals, two people are much more likely to have a better relationship.
      Of course, those values and morals have to be virtuous, not selfish, or you’re just in it for yourselves and marriage isn’t about you. It’s about children. (Unless you have a childless marriage, but that’s a different story.)
  • New trailer for... ANNO 1800! RTS City builder game! Part of the legendary "Anno" video game series which will turn 20 years soon!

    September 3
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      This video game series is quite popular and famous in Germany, but alas, outside of it few people know of it. Which is a shame, really.
    • Silverstar
      Silverstar
      It's somewhat known in Norway too, amongst fans of the genre anyway.
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      This looks nice. I only ever player Anno 1404, it was fun enough for a week or two but it got boring fast.
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      *played -_-
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Anno 1404 supposedly is the best title of the series. I never played it though because I was into other games at its time. Spent my childhood with the first game though. Spent also a lot of time with 1503, 1701 and 2070.
  • Oh my... Look at this beauty. I NEED THIS!

    image
    September 3
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      Heh, epic. You should print one using your own swordcoast map for HoMM!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      If only I knew a reliable and trustworthy shop to do that :/
      There may be some online shops who offer such service, but I've once had a rather bad experience. I suspect on that shop my personal information was hacked.

      Since then, I don't trust small online shops that I don't know :/
  • Nella mia prossima vita voglio diventare una conchiglia. :unamused:

    September 1
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      That clam is having way more fun in that video than I was having tonight :(
      So, I have decided to become a clam in my next life.
    • Aedan
      Aedan
      WHY?
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Watch it closely! It is having way more fun and is a lot more excited than I was about Beamdog's announcement...
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      I mean, it's literally jumping around with excitement!
  • Hmm I wonder... would it also work on BG1 or BG2 characters? Which character could this represent from the games? Can you guess?

    image
    August 31
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      WINTHROP!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Yes, well done! Should I ever make a thread about that, you'll start with 1 point ahead.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      yay
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      Clean as an elven arse, hehe..
    • Skatan
      Skatan
      If you win a "Who am I" post in that thread your riddle could be with symbols instead of written riddles.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      I never caught the word "elven" from that dialog because of Winthrop's accent. I thought he was saying something like "oven" or "woven", and I thought the said area was clean because it was woven or sewed shut to never let anything pass through...
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      https://forums.beamdog.com/discussion/37020/misheard-quotes/p1
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Another thing, what exactly does he say is as clean as an elven arse? "My..." what? I heard it as something like tow or tou... or is it toe?
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      "My hotel is clean as an elven arse!"
  • Attention everyone, I would like your help. For my project "Icewind Dale meets Heroes of Might and Magic 3", I would like to assign the portraits from HoMM3 to NPCs from Icewind Dale. Please, if you have time to spare and feel like it, help me out.

    For more information, check out this comment.
    August 31
  • Welcome, welcome,
    to the first episode of "Which forumite is this?"
    Can you guess?

    image
    August 30
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      It's our magpie friend, Skatan! :D
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Correct! 1 point for you! Next episode will start shortly, stay tuned!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Welcome to episode 2 of "Which forumite is this?" Can you guess?

      https://i.imgur.com/M9wEpMF.png
    • Tresset
      Tresset
      Hah, poor Troodon80. He hasn't been here in ages due to internet access troubles.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Correct, it's Troodon80! 1 point for you! Next episode will start soon!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Welcome to episode 3 of "Which forumite is this?" Can you guess?

      https://i.imgur.com/Oa8EoWX.png
    • mlnevese
      mlnevese
      deltago :)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Very good! Correct! 1 point for you! Stay tuned for the next episode!
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to episode FOUR of "Which forumite is this?" Can you guess?

      https://i.imgur.com/YI1rZXo.png
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      I must be really bad with picture associations. Skatan was the only one I've been able to make out.
    • deltago
      deltago
      Mine was the Sign for delta (a triangle) and a person Going 1 2 3 go. I am trying to think for the next one cap(red, hat) + sprinkles(white,candy,toppings) and am drawin blanks.
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Yeah, when the correct name is mentioned, I can immediately tell how, but without that knowledge, my brain just sees wingdings.
    • mlnevese
      mlnevese
      The first three ones were simple... the fourth one is a blank to me as well...
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      I can give a hint if you'd like. But each new hint within one episode divides the rewarding points by 2 for that episode. So if I gave one hint now and then someone would correctly guess it, then they'd only get 0.5 points.

      Also if nobody guesses the correct answer, then after a few days I'll give the solution and no one will get points for that episode.
    • mlnevese
      mlnevese
      This fourth one I have no idea at all...
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      HINT (reward split by 2): The forum member is wearing BOTH items as headwear. One atop the other.
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Why not make a thread in the off-topic section on this? :)

      (The image links aren't loading properly on mobile. :( All of them are opening at the same picture...)
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Hmm... I didn't think of that. I chose the activity page because there are only so many (that means so few) forumites you can do this with. A thread seemed too much. But okay we can move to a thread then.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Okay, game will continue here:
      https://forums.beamdog.com/discussion/72367/which-forumite-is-this#latest
    • Rik_Kirtaniya
      Rik_Kirtaniya
      Great! :D
  • Ugh Talona got me. I don't feel well at all. Expect less activity for a day or two. Also can't reply to PMs right now.
    August 29
  • Nothing sounds idiotic if it's wet enough.
    --Blanche Devereaux, The Golden Girls
    August 27
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      Oh man, THAT takes me back.
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Have been rewatching a lot of episodes recently. I love them! And I always come back once in a while to rewatch :)
    • ThacoBell
      ThacoBell
      I used to watch it with my mom waaaaaaay back when I was a little tyke.
  • Heroes of Might and Magic III, released on February 28, 1999.

    And things like this are still happening almost 20 years later:


    It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside to see how many people still love the shit out of this game.
    August 26
  • ehehehe.... disturbing...

    image
    August 24
    • Dev6
      Dev6
      what in the ever loving f-....
    • Shandyr
      Shandyr
      Watch out! Don't come too close! It may bite... No... No, I need to correct that: it WILL bite...