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Children, Little bundles of Joy? Terror's Tyrant's and Dictators? Will you, Do you, Could you?

CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
edited June 2014 in Off-Topic
Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen of the forum! :D
If it isn't a little to prying I'd love to hear your opinions on children! I thought, when I was younger (Relatively speaking) that I would never ever ever have children. I didn't like, I couldn't deal with them and never really felt the need. Then I met my current fiancee, who has a 14 month old and my opinion has since completely turned around. I adore my step son more then I can mention, there's a wonder in watching them grow and learn that is very very hard to describe to people who don't have their own. I'm now really looking forward to having my own (Hopefully a daughter although @JessicaKrystal‌ just wants boys) when we get settled down a bit better!!

They can be a handful, they can be challenging, they can be a pain, but are absolute wonders on the whole! :D

Anyway! This is my first attempt at a poll so we'll see how it goes! :D

Cheers guys! :D


If you have em, you know...
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  1. Children, Little bundles of Joy? Terror's Tyrant's and Dictators? Will you, Do you, Could you?43 votes
    1. I have Kidlets! Little wonders they are!!
      18.60%
    2. I want some! One day!
      32.56%
    3. Not bloody likely, I do not require mortal progeny!
      48.84%
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  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    Interesting!

    See that may well make you a better parent. You have a drive to stay away from the things that made your childhood messed up. There are SO many people I went to high school with who are on my Facebook and are having children just because they got someone pregnant. They don't want them, they aren't prepared for them, doesn't mean they won't be amazing parents when it dawns on them. But they still think they are going to party, do drugs and go out and go 'clubbing' (Yuck) and do everything they do now.
    Shandyr said:


    That already happened. Because my parents experienced the same with their respective parents.

    This is a fair point! It's not for everyone and the shame is we tend to become what we see and experience. It can be very hard to rise beyond the only thing we have ever known.
  • FinneousPJFinneousPJ Member Posts: 6,455
    I like (other peoples') kids but don't want to take responsibility for one, thanks.
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    See, that's the kind of love you can get from a child, he loves you SO much he just wants to gouge out your eyes and go all Mountain on your ass. But with love...
  • meaglothmeagloth Member Posts: 3,806
    I'm sure my views will change if I marry or get older(or both O_o) but right now as the oldest of a wide range of ages, I see the toll it takes on my parents mentally, physically, and financially. And that's any kid. My kid would be like me, and I would hate to have a kid like me.
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    Oh you'll be amazed how it changes! :O Oh my my, that's half the fun! I will raise a little hellion and he will LOVE Baldur's gate ;) hehe
  • RavenslightRavenslight Member Posts: 1,609
    Your picture of the baby bottles really takes me back. I remember being glad to be done with them at the time, but now I would love to go back and cuddle and coo while feeding him a bottle again. That would definitely not go over well now. Sigh… Cherish this time. :)
  • AutequiAutequi Member Posts: 403
    I was apathetic about having kids--didn't care for children in general, seemed like a lot of responsibility and hassle--but DH wanted one, so we had one. As it turns out, your own kid is way more awesome than those other anklebiters. Totally worth it.
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    Ravenslight said:

    Your picture of the baby bottles really takes me back. I remember being glad to be done with them at the time, but now I would love to go back and cuddle and coo while feeding him a bottle again. That would definitely not go over well now. Sigh… Cherish this time. :)

    Hehehe! I can't imagine it's going to go down well if you try... This one time... on Dr Phil... *Vietnam Flashback face*
    Autequi said:

    I was apathetic about having kids--didn't care for children in general, seemed like a lot of responsibility and hassle--but DH wanted one, so we had one. As it turns out, your own kid is way more awesome than those other anklebiters. Totally worth it.

    Isn't it odd? It's just little things they do that used to be really annoying when it was someone elses...
  • WalstafaWalstafa Member Posts: 116
    Whilst I'm less opposed to the idea than I was in my younger days, I don't think I want or need the responsibility of raising a child. I can just about handle looking after cats, who are basically independent in six months. :-)
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    edited June 2014
    Oh how I wish I could have a cat. The building we live in is "Pet Free". Most annoying. Oh it's not that long, just 17 more years and we can go out on our own after seven again! ;)
    P.S. I LOVE cats. Most amazing animals. ;) Even gansta cats...

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  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    HAHAHAH!! Oh I miss that show. :D As bad as it sounds, it is kinda like that. At the moment he's just over one and he follows you everywhere chanting DaDaDaDaDaDa and waving his arms around. He's getting to the talking part slowly ;)

    @elminster‌ who could say now to having Elminster as a dad? :P The power of this child is immense! :P
  • MathsorcererMathsorcerer Member Posts: 3,042
    Children have not been an option or a possibility for me since 1995; despite that, I wound up inheriting two of them about six years ago. So far, it has worked out a little better than I anticipated given that I had poor (or no) examples to follow: one grandfather died when I was a young child, the other always seemed very harsh and/or coldly distant (he, also, wound up dying before I became an adult and would have been able to understand him better), while my father chased skirts until my mother finally decided to kick him out. Given that my wife's father died when she was very young and her mother was a wild teenager into her 50s (when her health wouldn't let her party on the weekends any more) we have, ultimately, been making it all up as we go along.
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    @Mathsorcerer‌ That's how we do it! :) Make it up. As long as they are happy and healthy then whatever you're doing is working! :)

    @jackjack‌ That's a great idea! :) Settle down, have some fun together. Children are AMAZING and they will intensify the bond you share but they also take a great deal of your time and effort and by the time you're done all you can do is crash into bed and play BG together for an hour before going to sleep. :)
  • JuliusBorisovJuliusBorisov Member, Administrator, Moderator, Developer Posts: 22,754
    I've found the woman of my life more than 10 years ago. We still very much into each other. We're still having fun. We still tell each other (regarding children): Not today :)

    We definetely look at children positively but still haven't had enough "life as love"
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    @Bengoshi I had you pegged as a children type! :D You'll be a fine father one day! :)
    You'll know the time when it comes! :) It shall be glorious! :)

    The various opinions and reason of the wonderful people from this forum have been really insightful! One must always be learning and improving, otherwise, what's the point?! :)
  • The_Potty_1The_Potty_1 Member Posts: 436
    Mathsorcerer said:

    .. we have, ultimately, been making it all up as we go along.

    There's another method?

    Seriously, your parents will inevitably give you serious issues throughout your life, which you will almost inevitably re-enact with your children. This is normal. Therapy is great. A limited amount of denial works too, although if you overuse it, you better have a strong partner who knows when to slap you about the head and tell you to get it together. This is pretty much where I am. My wife is super brilliant :D
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    The_Potty_1 said:


    There's another method?

    If there is no one ever told us...


  • TarotMasterTarotMaster Member Posts: 147
    I would love to have kids some day their minds are one of a kind and it only shows before the teen/preteen years. But i am afraid i am along ways away from having them. I have a feeling i will be having kids late due to how far behind i am in life atm.
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    Ahh doesn't matter my good man! :) Got plenty of life to go yet! :) Be it now, tomorrow, in a week, or 15 years. Doesn't matter. :) Gotta milk everything you can out of life! ;)
  • lolienlolien Member, Moderator, Translator (NDA) Posts: 3,108
    edited July 2014
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    http://youtu.be/tXakTmzN3AQ

  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    @lolien‌ Are they yours..? :D
  • meaglothmeagloth Member Posts: 3,806
    Hehe, the poll goes 7,8,9.
  • CaloNordCaloNord Member Posts: 1,809
    @lolien‌, @JessicaKrystal‌ told me to tell you those are the most ADORABLE kids shes ever seen, it made her smile and tear up a little! :D Haha So adorable! :D

    @meagloth‌ Don't ruin it now! ;)
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