Let me see... I'm 40 years old as of June 14th... I have been married for 17 years... My wife is turning 42 in November and had a ischemic stroke last year. We have never wanted children and it's not likely we will change our minds in the near future... So no children for me.
@mlnevese Oh hell mate, is she okay?! :O That's pretty bloody rough. Hehe not everyone wants children, it is true they aren't for everyone. It does annoy me a little when people are like "Why don't you want kids?! It's the whole point of being alive!" I disagree, you get out of life exactly what you want to make of it. If they aren't for you, they aren't for you.
@kiwidoc Aww! An old-age Hippy sounds awesome! We were considering adopting one, one day. There are a lot of children that need a good home.
@CaloNord I seriously wanted to paint "Not new age hippies but OLD age hippies" on the side of my VW camper, but never got around to it. I'm sure there are a lot of old age hippies out there that need a good home .... you did say you were considering adopting one!
@mlnevese My little bro started his family when he was 40, but I also know a lot of people who were too set in there ways to have kids at that stage in their life, and also a lot who never wanted kids. Each to their own ... if I hadn't met my second hubby, I never would have wanted kids either. And the illness your wife has got. If I'm seriously honest I'm partly glad I never had children because I'm not well enough to work. It sounds like you are in a more serious position than I am in. So you never need to apologise for your choices, even tho there are people out there who will make you feel like you have to.
@CaloNord@kiwidoc She had a very rare kind of stroke that according to our doctor hits less than 2% of the world stroke cases. Also she recovered remarkablly well. The only things I notice is that her handwriting changed completely and she has very light speech problems. Nothing you'd notice unless you knew her well...
Also I do not feel any guilty for not wanting children. If anyone wants to think I'm evil, egoist or whatever, that's their problem, not mine
@CaloNord@kiwidoc She had a very rare kind of stroke that according to our doctor hits less than 2% of the world stroke cases. Also she recovered remarkablly well. The only things I notice is that her handwriting changed completely and she has very light speech problems. Nothing you'd notice unless you knew her well...
Also I do not feel any guilty for not wanting children. If anyone wants to think I'm evil, egoist or whatever, that's their problem, not mine
Well said mate! And I'm glad the stroke had such a mild effect.
Seconded! It's entirely a personal choice! Yea! That's really good news! I watched my father go through cancer, which was not fun. To top it off a year after recovering he managed to get pneumonia and ended up back in hospital for several weeks. Luckily he seems very hard to kill. Although natures making a pretty valiant effort of trying. >:O
I don't particularly like children, but I would like to have one someday. Maybe it's my genes talking, and wanting to pass it onto someone. I don't really like children, but I think it would be great when they get older and we can do things together like I do with my dad. Just today we went and played a round of golf together, it was great. I love spending time with my dad, so I think it would be nice to be able to do that with my own kid someday. As for when they're small children, I think it would be annoying and I would rather have a cat. I also don't find human babies cute at all (I think they're kind of ugly and repulsive), but I think baby animals are the most darling things in the world.
I think it would be annoying and I would rather have a cat.
BAHAHA! Oh that made me laugh out loud! It can be... challenging! You get out of it what you put into it however, we have taught our toddler a great many things and he's generally pretty bloody good. Sometimes he will push the boundaries just to see if they are still there but for the most part, he behaves! In the end, it's only around 4 years or so before you can start doing the fun fun things with them so it isn't that long really! Mine is just over 14 months now so we're getting there
It's funny you should mention that, to you, yours will be the most BEAUTIFUL thing you have ever seen, you may even wander around thinking how cute yours is compared to other peoples... no ones is as cute as your own is to you!
But they do grow up, and far to quickly when your going through it first hand!
Seconded! It's entirely a personal choice! Yea! That's really good news! I watched my father go through cancer, which was not fun. To top it off a year after recovering he managed to get pneumonia and ended up back in hospital for several weeks. Luckily he seems very hard to kill. Although natures making a pretty valiant effort of trying. >:O
The human body is really hard to kill sometimes. My wife's recovery happenned because of a new blood vessel that grew in her brain bypassing the collapsed one and returning oxygen levels to normal. Best wishes to your father
I really want children. I just need someone to get them with
Also, I very much respect people who dont want children, its far worse to have children because it is expected of you from people around you rather than an intrinsic want. Much better to figure it out before rather than after... It is a big responsibility after all.
I think it would be annoying and I would rather have a cat.
It's funny you should mention that, to you, yours will be the most BEAUTIFUL thing you have ever seen, you may even wander around thinking how cute yours is compared to other peoples... no ones is as cute as your own is to you!
I think it would be annoying and I would rather have a cat.
It's funny you should mention that, to you, yours will be the most BEAUTIFUL thing you have ever seen, you may even wander around thinking how cute yours is compared to other peoples... no ones is as cute as your own is to you!
Yeah, I've heard a lot of people say that, so hopefully that would be the case. I currently have a cat and I love him more than anything in the world. I love him probably like I would my own son.
Oh flesh of my flesh, blood of my blood... Today he got a little overexcited with his cuddles and kisses and tried to gouge my eyes out. </p>
Have you named him Xzar? Are you an elf? Please allow him to conduct his experiments in infravision! How could you, his mother, deny his urge for scientific enterprise!
I will send you this photo of a genuine dragon with rabbit feet. It may pique his interest in the sciences further.
As a teacher. I have learned that people get so fed up with their children, they create this imaginary construct called education. They create it so they don't feel so bad about abandoning their children in what basically amounts to mini concentration camps ran by strict disciplinarians... Like me...
When I was five, I had this idea that when I grew up I'd just automatically become pregnant, like how a plant just grows fruit eventually, I guess. (Don't laugh!) But I really didn't want to have kids. One day I asked my mom, "What do you do if you don't WANT to get pregnant?" She kind of looked at me askance and said, "Well, there's a pill you can take for that."
And I thought, great, I'm going to have to take a pill my whole life.
Again, I was five.
My view on not wanting kids hasn't changed, and I'm 40. My husband and I are rocking the Aunt and Uncle thing. We have some great nieces and nephews, and most of my friends have some pretty cool kids. But I think you look at what parents have to do and you just know if it's for you or if it's not. And it's just not for us.
basically amounts to mini concentration camps ran by strict disciplinarians... Like me...
MwahahahAhahA!
You will LEARN!
MwahahahAhahA!
Think we just found the single most awesome teacher.
His name is Malakai but I've been pressing for a name change. He's only 14 months and he stood there... waiting for her eyes to open... then STRUCK with lightning speed aiming to remove the eyeball! Speed is everything when removing a living eyeball. He missed the mark a little, he still struggles with his little hand and feet demons sometimes. Judging by the expression he managed to slip her some drugs and will await his next opportunity...
Firstly, Cats are amazing. Secondly, you have no idea how many times I've reacted to someone elses kids like that... he MAY be adorable, I can't tell he's smeared poo down the walls and is eating a crayon...
Is that just to make sure I don't strangle him the next time he pulls the modem off the shelf, breaks the plugs and runs away with it shouting in glory because he got the 'Flashy Table Demon'?
But I think you look at what parents have to do and you just know if it's for you or if it's not. And it's just not for us.
Ahahahah! Aww that was adorable! But I can respect that. It's been mentioned by @Aristillius, totally correctly that having children for the wrong reason is an awful idea. It's a huge commitment in time and resources and love and it will take the better part of 20 years. It's not for everyone and it's not to be taken as lightly as some people do.
I'm 22 and, at least for now, the "forever alone" type of guy so having kids is not really my priority. If I ever will find the girl that I would like to spend the rest of my life with, then I would rather have fun and freedom for first few years, then think about children. Two, if I'm ever going to have pretty stable and good life. One, or no children at all, if all I could accomplish in my life is being typical everyday slave, who commited spiritual suicide long time ago.
I'm not soft enough to be a modern parent. All the parents I know either don't care enough or want to be 'best friends' to their kids instead of proper parents.
I have alot of nieces, nephews, and young cousins and they're ALL spoiled brats. They have no manners, and will throw a full on tantrum over small things, like simply making them wash their hands. They wont stop screaming and stamping their feet until they get exactly what they want. I have no patience for that shit, and stay away as much as I can.
Last xmas one of them began raging at the table, he was banging his plate and screaming at the top of his lungs... I told my sister(his mother) to shut him up or I would, I was just going to drag him into the living room and shut the door... but before I could my sister threw boiling water on me.
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Could I have children .... sadly no
Ah well, it's probably for the best. Some poor kid could have been inflicted with an old-age hippy like me for a mum ;P
@kiwidoc Aww! An old-age Hippy sounds awesome!
Also I do not feel any guilty for not wanting children. If anyone wants to think I'm evil, egoist or whatever, that's their problem, not mine
It's funny you should mention that, to you, yours will be the most BEAUTIFUL thing you have ever seen, you may even wander around thinking how cute yours is compared to other peoples... no ones is as cute as your own is to you!
But they do grow up, and far to quickly when your going through it first hand!
Also, I very much respect people who dont want children, its far worse to have children because it is expected of you from people around you rather than an intrinsic want. Much better to figure it out before rather than after... It is a big responsibility after all.
The "breathtaking" baby from Seinfeld.
I will send you this photo of a genuine dragon with rabbit feet. It may pique his interest in the sciences further.
As a teacher. I have learned that people get so fed up with their children, they create this imaginary construct called education. They create it so they don't feel so bad about abandoning their children in what basically amounts to mini concentration camps ran by strict disciplinarians... Like me...
MwahahahAhahA!
You will LEARN!
MwahahahAhahA!
And I thought, great, I'm going to have to take a pill my whole life.
Again, I was five.
My view on not wanting kids hasn't changed, and I'm 40. My husband and I are rocking the Aunt and Uncle thing. We have some great nieces and nephews, and most of my friends have some pretty cool kids. But I think you look at what parents have to do and you just know if it's for you or if it's not. And it's just not for us.
His name is Malakai but I've been pressing for a name change. He's only 14 months and he stood there... waiting for her eyes to open... then STRUCK with lightning speed aiming to remove the eyeball! Speed is everything when removing a living eyeball. He missed the mark a little, he still struggles with his little hand and feet demons sometimes. Judging by the expression he managed to slip her some drugs and will await his next opportunity...
Is that just to make sure I don't strangle him the next time he pulls the modem off the shelf, breaks the plugs and runs away with it shouting in glory because he got the 'Flashy Table Demon'?
Ahahahah! Aww that was adorable!
I have alot of nieces, nephews, and young cousins and they're ALL spoiled brats. They have no manners, and will throw a full on tantrum over small things, like simply making them wash their hands. They wont stop screaming and stamping their feet until they get exactly what they want. I have no patience for that shit, and stay away as much as I can.
Last xmas one of them began raging at the table, he was banging his plate and screaming at the top of his lungs... I told my sister(his mother) to shut him up or I would, I was just going to drag him into the living room and shut the door... but before I could my sister threw boiling water on me.
A kid would be miserable around me.