I'd rather continue volunteering in what Ï'm doing right now and what I'm good at. I'm not good at helping people on a 1-on-1 basis. Due to my autism I wouldn't know what to say or what to do when people suffer and due to my too high empathy I'd feel overwhelmed by their sorrow.
I'd rather continue volunteering in what Ï'm doing right now and what I'm good at. I'm not good at helping people on a 1-on-1 basis. Due to my autism I wouldn't now what to say or what to do when people suffer and due to my too high empathy I'd feel overwhelmed by their sorrow.
(Yes, high empathy and autism can go together, not always, but being overwhelmed by feeling the pain of others is one of the ways in which people with autism can suffer from information overload, the last being the main characteristic and common ground of autistic spectrum disorders).
*I meant to edit my reply instead of quote myself. I hit the wrong button, I'm not really awake yet.
P.S.: funny how people think the antidote to being overburdened is increasing the burden. Tbone suggests working in a cancer hospital, my sister-in-law suggested taking care of my nephew and nieces for a day, when having children around with their running around and shouting is already very tiring when I needn't take care of them.
The nurse that applies my anti-psychotic medication once every fortnight often says I'd should shut my self off from the world more. If only I'd know how to...
Or go volunteer to help children and their parents at a cancer hospital. You'll soon adjust your attitude.
I put this out to people in general, not to anyone specifically. I wish I had done that in my mid-to-late 20s, it probably would have helped me in a lot of things.
As I'm going to visit Pripyat (Chernobyl), an urban exploration thing, early May I decided to renew my digital camera gear. I used to have an Olympus C-5050 Zoom camera which was a very good compact solution and I moved to hybrid cameras with a Panasonic Lumix GX80, I fit a Sigma 30mm/F2.8 Art lens on it, I also have an Olympus M. Zuiko Digital ED 40-150mm/2.8 Pro for distant shots.
I need a wide angle lens now too, I'm seriously considering either the Panasonic/Leica 12mm/1.4 DG Summilux asph or the Olympus 7-14mm/2.8 Pro.
I will take photography courses in April to improve my skills.
I'm planning an upgrade of my desktop with a Ryzen 5 processor. I'm taking advice on the Tweakers.net forum, where most everyone builds their own rig and maybe I will try my hand at building in the new motherboard and processor myself. It's said to be easy as LEGO if you follow the motherboard's manual close, I got an hour-length YouTube video that explains the process (which itself takes only 20 minutes) step-by-step. And if I get stuck, there's plenty of help to be found by the people on the Tweakers forum, who turned out to be very willing to help. It will be a great skill to learn and will make me very proud if I can build my computer out of the parts of my old one, that was self-picked but assembled by the store.
My previously posted quest is coming close to completion. I want to get my son walking on his own (at the time of original post, he could only crawl.) He now walks while holding our hands, but we aren't really holding him up. He just needs to get the confidence to do it, he has it down.
Haha true, I said it used to be messy because you could break a computer assembling it. Get the wrong jumped position, insert memory the wrong way etc...
As I'm going to visit Pripyat (Chernobyl), an urban exploration thing, early May I decided to renew my digital camera gear. I used to have an Olympus C-5050 Zoom camera which was a very good compact solution and I moved to hybrid cameras with a Panasonic Lumix GX80, I fit a Sigma 30mm/F2.8 Art lens on it, I also have an Olympus M. Zuiko Digital ED 40-150mm/2.8 Pro for distant shots.
I need a wide angle lens now too, I'm seriously considering either the Panasonic/Leica 12mm/1.4 DG Summilux asph or the Olympus 7-14mm/2.8 Pro.
I will take photography courses in April to improve my skills.
@Matthieu please share your photos when you get back. Pripyat is beautiful.
Trying to become a parent. It's not as easy/natural for all couples unfortunately.
Edit: ...while trying too not wallow in self-pity and dive into a deep depressions whilst showing nothing on the outside and keeping up appearances towards family, friends, at work and the random strangers who take it for granted that at a certain age you should have kids or be a complete failure and proceed by telling us all the things we do wrong and if we only [insert useless pro-tip here] everything will work out great.
Trying to become a parent. It's not as easy/natural for all couples unfortunately.
Edit: ...while trying too not wallow in self-pity and dive into a deep depressions whilst showing nothing on the outside and keeping up appearances towards family, friends, at work and the random strangers who take it for granted that at a certain age you should have kids or be a complete failure and proceed by telling us all the things we do wrong and if we only [insert useless pro-tip here] everything will work out great.
Lose your job. Once unemployment and lack of insurance are achieved, pregnancy is almost guaranteed.
@Skatan happens to be a great fora member, but that is not the point. I would not recommend to @Skatan to have a child, unless he/she is socially privileged. Privately I might look at unkindness from the likes of you, as a reason - but it's still more about society, as opposed to random boors.
Trying to become a parent. It's not as easy/natural for all couples unfortunately.
Edit: ...while trying too not wallow in self-pity and dive into a deep depressions whilst showing nothing on the outside and keeping up appearances towards family, friends, at work and the random strangers who take it for granted that at a certain age you should have kids or be a complete failure and proceed by telling us all the things we do wrong and if we only [insert useless pro-tip here] everything will work out great.
@skatan Sorry. That's tough to even hear, as I was right there myself, with the tests, the drugs, the same thoughts you mentioned. It's just not a good time to go through. Here's to it working out for ya'll.
@TStael Twas merely in jest. I would never actually wish for someone to be unable to care for their family.
You know the point was not that, but being very "jestly" when someone was being sincere about something that is maybe rather hurtful to them.
Painful even.
In those fragile and open moments, willingly missing the chance to be empathic is wrong I think. Yet here you are again.
And yet here you are again finding reasons to be angry about an innocent post. If I have offended @Skatan , I trust that he would let me know. Don't waste your time getting offended for other people.
@TStael Twas merely in jest. I would never actually wish for someone to be unable to care for their family.
You know the point was not that, but being very "jestly" when someone was being sincere about something that is maybe rather hurtful to them.
Painful even.
In those fragile and open moments, willingly missing the chance to be empathic is wrong I think. Yet here you are again.
And yet here you are again finding reasons to be angry about an innocent post. If I have offended @Skatan , I trust that he would let me know. Don't waste your time getting offended for other people.
Trying to become a parent. It's not as easy/natural for all couples unfortunately.
Edit: ...while trying too not wallow in self-pity and dive into a deep depressions whilst showing nothing on the outside and keeping up appearances towards family, friends, at work and the random strangers who take it for granted that at a certain age you should have kids or be a complete failure and proceed by telling us all the things we do wrong and if we only [insert useless pro-tip here] everything will work out great.
This. This is how it is. Speaking from experience here. You have my sympathies and best wishes. You'll most likely succeed eventually, but it's a very hard path to walk. Try not to lose yourselves on it. Keep in mind that there are many paths to parenthood, some of which require just a little time and good timing, while others require progressively involved medical procedures - IVF, microinsemination, egg or sperm donation, surrogacy - and there's also adoption, which is a whole other issue. These are but means to an end - take a cue from Sarevok himself. At first some of these appear extreme, stuff that you'd never consent to, but they will soon come to feel natural, just the steps needed to achieve your dream. Hopefully you'll not need any of this.
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Wait until your wife wakes up to get a cookie.
*I meant to edit my reply instead of quote myself. I hit the wrong button, I'm not really awake yet.
P.S.: funny how people think the antidote to being overburdened is increasing the burden. Tbone suggests working in a cancer hospital, my sister-in-law suggested taking care of my nephew and nieces for a day, when having children around with their running around and shouting is already very tiring when I needn't take care of them.
The nurse that applies my anti-psychotic medication once every fortnight often says I'd should shut my self off from the world more. If only I'd know how to...
Let's talk about other people's quests in life. What's yours?
I need a wide angle lens now too, I'm seriously considering either the Panasonic/Leica 12mm/1.4 DG Summilux asph or the Olympus 7-14mm/2.8 Pro.
I will take photography courses in April to improve my skills.
These things don't happen anymore.
What, too soon?
EDIT: and I've already taken two courses, waiting for the good weather to come back for some fun outside.
Edit: ...while trying too not wallow in self-pity and dive into a deep depressions whilst showing nothing on the outside and keeping up appearances towards family, friends, at work and the random strangers who take it for granted that at a certain age you should have kids or be a complete failure and proceed by telling us all the things we do wrong and if we only [insert useless pro-tip here] everything will work out great.
Why would you be so unthoughtful? I hate it!
@Skatan happens to be a great fora member, but that is not the point. I would not recommend to @Skatan to have a child, unless he/she is socially privileged. Privately I might look at unkindness from the likes of you, as a reason - but it's still more about society, as opposed to random boors.
@Skatan hope the very best outcome for you.
Painful even.
In those fragile and open moments, willingly missing the chance to be empathic is wrong I think. Yet here you are again.