Do you have a romantic partner?
I am just curious about the demographics of the forums in this area. So I thought I would throw a poll at my curiosity and see what happened. The poll will be anonymous so that shy people can vote on it, but if you are not shy I would love to know who voted for what. I know that your status can change at the drop of a hat, but you can't change your vote and there is nothing I can do about that. Remember to keep it clean and such. Have fun!
- Do you have a romantic partner?90 votes
- I am married or otherwise committed to a partner.37.78%
- I have a boyfriend/girlfriend.23.33%
- I am single but I would like a partner some day.25.56%
- I am single and I like it that way.10.00%
- I once had a partner but we separated and I don't want another one.3.33%
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Life is busy enough the way it is, having to live under one roof with the me who wants to do all kind of things and the me who is handicapped and can't take too much stress is enough hassle not to have to account for the wishes of another person in my life (read twice if you don't take the gest straight away).
I have tried, but between my work, my household, my hobbies (like gaming) and the need to recover from every activity no matter if it's a happy or a sad thing, I don't have enough energy (I would say time, but when I complain of lack of time, it's energy that's really the limiting factor) to spend my life with someone else.
(Also, unless you are a teenager talking about other teenagers, I seriously advocate using the word "women." It helps you and everyone else remember that women are adult human beings, just like you.)
Want some advice for a happy relationship? Choose a partner with sleeping habits different from your own. My wife is an early riser, I'm a late riser. My wife turns in early, I'm awake till midnight at least. That means that we both have some hours every day for ourselves. (And the cat is happy too since she can enjoy nearly 24 hour food service
We both played the original Baldur's Gate series and when the EE's were out we played them too, but with BG2EE there was no German translation to be had at first, and my wife is not much into languages. That made me volunteer for the German translation and in the end that's why I'm here.
We spend a lot of time together and quite often it means we play Baldur's Gate and Icewind Dale. A multiplayer session is very fun!
For everyone who thinks they will be "single forever", I just want you all to know that pretty much everyone felt that way at one point or the other, so don't dwell on it. Love finds people, even nerds like us.
Unfortunately, he does not like videogames as much as I do.
When he hears Minsc saying "GO FOR THE EYES, BOO!", he shakes his head.
When he hears Male Shepard saying "This is my favourite store on the Citadel", he shakes his head.
When he hears Morrigan saying "I am your death!", he runs away at once. @Metalloman saw that with his own eyes
Anyway, In-Topic:
I'm in a relatively new relationship atm, I met her in a chinese restaurant and this Sunday will be a month.
I hate it when people treat choosing to be single as a temporary phase, as something that should be mended in some way (by meeting someone you'll spend your life with).
May I please choose to live my life my own way? I don't want to be treated as if I'm missing something, as someone who's life is not complete because I'm single. My life is as complete and fulfilling as it can be, but for the worries a mental illness brings. There's more to life, love, caring, fulfilment than a relationship. Please don't treat me as someone who should have someone else to feel whole.
sorry if it reads like a personal rebuttal @booinyoureyes, this is actually more of a vent of my experience in life with people in general, were singles are often treated as someone who-has-yet-to-find-someone instead of as a state of life which can be chosen for it's own fulfilment.
That doesn't mean I want to single for life, the right person just hasn't walked by yet.
My partner is a super fit dancer and is pretty much wayyyyy out of my league. Dunno what he's doing with me, or how in the name of the wee man I managed it but he said yes when I proposed. Woo.
lol.
My answer was always "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all", trying to encourage him to go for the eyes a girlfriend (he is really shy and he fears the sufferings that love could give).
When he then replied to me that it's easy for me to say such a statement just because I felt love, I reply that it is not so easy, as love can definitely make you suffer (hard), but love can give you such wonderful moments that you can't find anywhere else, so it deserves the risk, totally.
Love is an experience, both good and bad, but as every experience, it can teach you much on life, so that you can face it with much more strength, every time you're having a bad time.
After such "words of wisdom" he says nothing, so I don't know if he agrees or not... however I believe that these are things deserving a thought or two...
I became friends with a girl at university during the previous academic year, and after a while I really wanted to be more than friends. But she was graduating that year and already had a job lined up in another province, so I didn't think it was worth it. But I missed her a lot over the summer, and ended up getting in touch and arranging to visit her, and it turns out she felt the same way I did. Dating long distance isn't always easy though, and I've been really stressed out about finding a job in her city for when I graduate this year, as well as worrying about what happens to us if I don't. I still haven't found one, but I'm starting to think I might just move out there regardless.